Monday, February 16, 2015
Info for Sharing on Marriage
• Marriage is worth struggling and fighting for
• Marriage is not built upon love, its built upon ISLAM AND IHSAAN (concept of Ihsaan is excellent)
• Break the cycle - we don’t have to live the marriage of our parents, we create our own marriage traditions
• To all, esp brothers, when you are angry at your spouse, stop and say, I forgive you - say it with your tongue and your heart will hear it and deal with it
• Everyone has the capacity to forgive
• The best pleasure in this dunya is *a righteous spouse* (hadeeth)
• A spouse is not someone who you want to spend your live with but someone to spend with for eternity
• Everyone single will be married in Jannah - pure happiness is the state of being married
• Rasulullah (saw) was more loving inside the home than he (saw) outside
• The first thing that Rasulullah (saw) did when he (saw) entered the house was to kiss his (saw) wife
• Reference of marriage in the Qur’an: protecting garment, mawaddah, rahmah - reflect what we represent to our spouses
• Proposal mentioned in the Quran: Prophet Musa (as) - the woman spoke to him, they interacted modestly, he worked with her father
• Rasulullah saw and Khadija ra - they were in business together, had business transactions, familiar w each other characters
• Ask ourselves: Do I make my spouse feel lucky to have me? Do I give that feeling of insecurity, inferiority to our spouses?
• Are we busy taking care of our hearts that we break the hearts of spouses?
• Fear Allah swt w our spouses
• When things are difficult, when relationships are not working as we hope, remember only Allah Taala doesn’t disappoint us. Only He is the perfect One. Our spouses are creations just like us, who are flawed. Even Rasulullah (saw) who is the perfect man disagreed with his (saw) wife
Finding happiness in marriage, Yasmin Mogahed
• We wont fill the void in our hearts by getting married. Only Allah Taala can fill the void
• Only one source of healing is Allah Taala
• no human being can fix us up, its not the job of a creation, onnly the Creator may fix our hearts
• Generosity in marriage cant happen unless we are full inside (our hearts are not void)
• Love with giving not taking
• When we beg from Allah Taala, He elevates us. When we beg from creations, we are humiliated
• Do not be attached to the dunya. When we are not attached to people, people will love you
• Love without attachment, love without dependency
Sh Yahya Ibrahim,
*Rasulullah (saw) said treat your wife well, and never said to women to treat the husband well. Why? Because the right is MORE for the wives for the husbands to care and love them.
Lessons from Rasulullah (saw), for the husbands:
1. When you eat, feed her
2. When you buy yourself something, buy something to her
3. Let your wife sit where you sit
4. What you expect and ask from your wife, you must be able to also give her
5. Express your love
6. Sadaqah that has more barakah is to your family - give gifts often
7. Give more than you take
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Kewajipan Menjauhi Fitnah
This is written as a reminder to me first and to the rest. InsyaAllah this
short write-up will lead us to ponder or to read and understand further of
this topic.
When I was younger and naive I used to think that my business is mine and
others should not interfere. I thought that who talks or judge bad about me
or my actions will pay the price during judgement day . But as I grow older
and more mature Ive realized that I too had an obligation to stay away from
situation that allows others to judge me wrongly. I have a creator and to
HIM I shall stand and answer my deeds as to why I put myself in those
situation. So now as much as possible I try to be wary of my actions and
words not for the sake of others but for my love and fear of Allah.
What I want to share today is not on Menjauhkan Diri Dari Berfitnah (topic
that is heavy and found in the Al-Quran and Hadis) but more on our Kewajipan
Menjauhi Fitnah (also heavy but usually neglected by us)
Kita kena faham betul-betul maksud fitnah. Dalam al-Quran, lebih kurang ada
17 definasi fitnah yang berbeza-beza. Antaranya ialah bala, bencana, ujian
berat dan juga menuduh manusia lain.
Among the 3 fitnah describes here are:
1. FITNAH WANITA.
Jangan sangkal lagi kerana sudah jelas lagi bersuluh, bahawa fitnah terbesar
atas muka bumi sekarang ialah fitnah wanita. Rasulullah sendiri memberi
amaran kepada umat Baginda agar takut dan berhati-hati dengan ujian orang
perempuan. Kita boleh lihat sendiri bagaimana seorang nabi dan rasul, iaitu
Yusuf A.S yang terkena fitnah wanita...
Hinggakan kata Baginda, Penjara itu adalah lebih aku sukai!, dan Baginda
sendiri meminta kepada Allah agar dilemparkan dalam penjara. Di balik tembok
besi itu, datang bersamanya satu falsafah yang besar kepada kita semua.
Penjarakan jarak. Penjarakan nafsu. Penjarakan ikhtilat.
Penjarakannya, agar hatimu tidak terjerut dengan cinta yang lalai dan
melalaikan.
2. FITNAH HARTA.
Para sahabat radiallahu anhum ajmain pun ada yang terkena dan kalah dengan
fitnah harta. Bukti paling jelas ialah semasa perang uhud. Arahan Rasulullah
jelas. Jangan tinggalkan posisi kamu selagi tiada arahan dariku, tetapi
selepas mereka melihat yang tentera kafir tergopoh-gapoh berundur, mereka
pun meninggalkan posisi mereka di balik bukit dan berebut-rebut mahu
mengutip ghanimah.
Memang benar islam menyeru umatnya untuk kaya jiwa dan kaya harta. Supaya
apabila harta kita banyak, kita pun boleh menyumbang dengan banyak kepada
agama islam. Kita boleh bina masjid, bina pusat islam, bina pusat dakwah,
bina ketenteraan, dan segala macam sarana yang diperlukan untuk perjuangan
ini.
Tapi apa yang berlaku hari ini, orang kaya yang dekat dengan Allah sangat
sedikit sebaliknya yang kaya dan menjadikannya sombong, takabbur, dan rasa
ala-ala Tuhan, itu ramai sekali. Tak payah nak tunding jari kepada
lelaki-lelaki arab yang gemuk itu. Tunjuk sahaja ke diri kita sendiri.
Berapa banyak yang kita telah belanjakan untuk islam? Adakah kita juga
seperti manusia-manusia tadi, yang sanggup berbelanja sehingga separuh juta
semata-mata untuk satu baris nombor plat kereta murahan sahaja?
Ingat. Allah akan hisab harta-harta kita. Allah akan soal satu soalan yang
mencarik-carik ulu hati kita. Darah kita pada tika itu takkan mengalir. Otot
kita masa itu akan mengejang. Semuanya terkejut, takut.
Hartamu, kemana kamu belanjakan?
Maka mahu dijawab dengan bahasa apa lagikah jika jawapannya ialah yang
terpesong daripada skema syurga.
3. FITNAH KEDUDUKAN.
Hari ini ramai yang mahu jadi pemimpin. Tapi ramai yang tak mahu dipimpin
oleh wahyu. Maka itulah yang berlaku pada pemimpin-pemimpin umat islam.
Makin berkuasa, makin berleluasa. Makin tinggi autoriti, makin hilang
integriti dan dignity!
Abu Dzar al-Ghifari pernah mendatangi Rasulullah S.A.W dan meminta jawatan
daripada Baginda lalu Baginda pun berkata, Aku bimbang kamu tidak layak
untuk memikul amanahnya.
Saidina Umar R.A pula sejak dijadikan khalifah, beliau sudah tidak mampu
untuk tidur lagi. Beliau sudah tak dapat bezakan siang dengan malam.
Kenikmatan rehat sudah tiada baginya. Kerana kata beliau, Aku bimbang jika
aku tidur di siang hari, maka urusanku dengan rakyatku tidak selesai dan aku
juga bimbang untuk tidur di malam hari kerana aku takut urusanku dengan
Allah pula yang tidak selesai.
Kita bercakap fasal kepimpinan, lalu kita pun terbayang kerusi-kerusi empuk
dalam dewan berhawa dingin itu. Tidak semestinya, kerana sabda rasulullah,
Setiap daripada kamu ialah pemimpin. Kita ialah pemimpin dan kita ada orang
yang kita pimpin. Seorang guru memimpin anak murid. Seorang majikan memimpin
pekerjanya. Seorang ayah memimpin anak-anak dan seorang manusia, memimpin
nafsunya.
Jangan cuai dengan tanggungjawab kepimpinan, terutamanya untuk memimpin hati
kita.
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Apakah erti kemerdekaan?
Whatever the mind of a man can conceive and believe, he can achieve.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.
Jika kita tidak menjadi Tuan kepada Duit, kita terpaksa menjadi HAMBA kepada hutang.
Thursday, July 24, 2014
12 Kaum Yang Dibinasakan Allah
Kaum Yang Dibinasakan Allah.Assalamualaikum dan selamat sejahtera, dalam Al- Quran, banyak diceritakan kisah-kisah umat terdahulu yang telah dibinasakan oleh Allah disebabkan mereka mengingkari utusanNya dan melakukan pelbagai penyimpangan yang telah dilarang. Berikut adalah kaum-kaum yang dibinasakan.
Sunday, May 25, 2014
17 Self-Help Books Everyone Should Read
1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
2. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
3. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Lifes Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
4. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny by Anthony Robbins
5. The 5 Languages of Love: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
6. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
7. The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living by Nick Ortner
8. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg
9. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
10. How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie
11. Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time by Brian Tracy
12. Organizing from the Inside Out by Julie Morgenstern
13. Mans Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
14. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
15. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Life by Martin Seligman
16. The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness by Stephen R. Covey
17. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
Get inspired and motivated as you indulge in this collection and most importantly, act on what you learn!