Civilized to Death

"Civilized to Death" by Christopher Ryan challenges us to re-evaluate what it means to be truly happy and fulfilled. Here are the lessons from the book:

1. Progress isn't always linear. Modern society often equates progress with technological advancement, but the book argues that this relentless pursuit can come at a cost to our well-being. It encourages a more holistic approach to progress, considering factors like social connection and mental health.

2. Rethink happiness. Society often defines success through material possessions and achievements, but "Civilized to Death" proposes that true happiness might lie in simpler things: strong social bonds, connection to nature, and a sense of purpose.

3. Community matters. Hunter-gatherer societies, according to the book, fostered strong community bonds. Modern life, with its emphasis on individualism and technology, can lead to isolation. The book highlights the importance of rebuilding community connections.

4. Nature nurtures. Our disconnection from the natural world can have negative consequences. "Civilized to Death" suggests that reconnecting with nature can improve mental and physical well-being.

5. Stress less, live more. Modern life is often characterized by chronic stress. The book argues that a more relaxed pace of life, with less focus on work and achievement, could lead to greater happiness.

6. Question everything. The book encourages us to critically examine the assumptions that underpin modern society. Are our current ways of living truly optimized for human happiness?

7. Find balance. "Civilized to Death" doesn't advocate for abandoning modern conveniences. The key takeaway is to find a balance between the benefits of civilization and the importance of connection, purpose, and a slower pace of life.

These lessons from "Civilized to Death" prompt readers to critically evaluate the true costs of modern civilization and consider alternative ways of living that prioritize well-being, connection, and sustainability over mere technological and economic progress.

TIPS JADI AYAH HEBAT

Mahal ilmu ni..

1. Cintailah isterimu.

Terima segala baik buruknya saat menikahinya. Dia lah yg melahirkan dan menjaga zuriatmu hampir siang dan malam. 

Pengorbanan yang sangat jelas tidak mampu ayah lakukan. Saban hari berperang dengan perasaan dan pengorbanan dalam mengasuh zuriat mu sejak lahir.

Jika anda menyayangi isterimu, maka kasih dan cintailah keluargamu.

2. Luang masa bersama

Sesekali bawa lah keluarga anda bersiar-siar2. Bersantai ditepi pantai ditemani angin sepoi-sepoi.. 'Bonding time'.. 

Sesi bersantai dan bermesra bersama. Sambil mendengar luahan hati masing-masing.. Saling memperingati dan memperbaiki kesilapan diri..

Jika punya bayi kecil.. Saat bayi anda berjaga malam. Ambil peluang untuk menjaga dan mengasuh bayi anda. 

Biarkan isteri anda tidur dan ambil tempat isteri anda. Saat bayi anda 3 bulan adalah masa yang tepat untuk anda memainkan peranan anda sebagai bapa supaya pertumbuhan pembesaran bayi anda sejajar dengan perkembangan.

3. Jadilah teladan

Saling menjaga dan memperbaiki diri supaya anda menjadi ikutan yg baik untuk anak anda..

Tunjukkan perilaku dan perbuatan yang baik kerana anak anda melihat setiap tingkah laku anda dan mungkin anak anda akan menjadikan anda sebagai IDOLA suatu hati nanti..

4. Fahamilah karakter setiap anak anda.

Saling berkomunikasi dan menerima kelebihan dan kekurangan masing-masing tanpa membezakan antara satu dengan yang lain.

Berikan bimbingan mengikut cara yang bersesuaian dan tidak terlalu memaksa. Biarkan pertumbuhan mereka selaras dengan alirannya.

5. Tunjuk kasih sayang

Terjemahkan kasih sayang anda pada anak anda. Jangan biarkan mereka berasa sendiri dan sepi. Saling berinteraksi dan saling memberi antara satu sama lain supaya mereka berasa dihargai dan disayangi..

6. Disiplinkan anak anda dengan kelembutan

Ajar dan didik anak anda dengan kelembutan dan bukan terlau memaksa dan mendesak. Dikhuatiri mereka akan memberontak suatu hari kelak.

Memberikan penterjemahan dengan kelembutan dan bukan dengan amarah..

7. Tabungan masa hadapan.

Sebagai ayah yang bijak. Anda sebgagai ketua keluarga hendaklah bijan merancang perbelanjaan kewangan dalam keluarga. 

Wang bukanlah segalanya akan tetapi ia amatlah berguna untuk masa hadapan anak anda. Bijaklah menabung dan menyimpan untuk kegunaan kecemasan dan masa hadapan.

8. Makan bersama keluarga

Nikmatilah saat makan bersama keluarga anda. Saling bermesra dan berbual. Tunjukkan rasa penghargaan anta satu sama lain supaya mereka rasa disayangi..

9. Berdoa dan beribadah bersama

Sebagai imam dan ketua keluarga, didiklah anak supaya mentakuti Allah S .A.W.. Ajarkan mereka tentang solat, dosa dan pahala supaya kelak mereka menjadi solleh dan solehah dan takut kepada Allah

10. Nikmatilah saat menjadi seorang ayah yang kekal selamanya

Saat anda menjadi seorang ayah, Maka selamanya akan menjadi seorang ayah. 

Jadilah seorang ayah yang sabar dan bertanggungjawab dan mendidikan anak anda supaya pertumbuhan anak anda sejajar dengan perkembangannya

Semoga Allah membimbing kita 🤲

LESSONS WE LEARN FROM THE WORLD MOST PROMINENT

1. Dr. Ben Carson said,

 "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best Neurosurgeon in the World in 1987"

LESSON: 

Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet. 

2. Oprah Winfrey said, " I was raped at the age of 9 yet I am one of the most influential women in the World" 

LESSON: 

Don't let your past decide your future.

3. Bill Gate said,"I didn't even complete my university education but became the World's richest man" 

LESSON: 

 School does not make you rich. School is only suppose to Polish what will make you rich, not make you Rich.

4. Joyce Meyer said & I quote, "I was sexually, mentally, emotionally and verbally abused by my father as far back as I can remember, until I left home at the age of eighteen, yet I am one of the most influential preachers in the World" 

LESSON: 

Let your past push you, not define or limit you

5. Christian Ronaldo said, "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality" 

LESSON: 

Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say. 

6. Hear Lionel Messi!, "I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the World's best footballers"

 LESSON: 

 Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like. 

7. Steve Jobs penned, "I used to sleep on the floor in my friends' rooms, returning Coke bottles for food, money, and getting weekly free meals at a local temple, I later on founded Apple Company" 

 LESSON: 

That you are small today doesn't mean you will be small tomorrow. Keep trusting God.

8. Former British PM, Tony Blair said & I quote, "My teachers used to call me a failure, but I became a Prime Minister" 

LESSON: 

Don't let someone's else's opinions of you become your reality.

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FACTS ABOUT THE WORKPLACE

1. Your boss is not your friend. Regardless of how close you both are, learn to set PROFESSIONAL boundaries.

2. Walls have ears. Be careful who you confide in at work. A listening ear could also be a flippant mouth.

3. Your employer is now concerned about RESULTS. How you get the JOB done is up to you. No excuses.

4. There is always that one person/ group of persons feeding the boss with happenings in the office. Some employees brief go beyond the official  ( except in work cultures where such act is expressly frowned upon). Be guided.

5. When you get withdrawn from PROJECTS or someone is asked to understudy you or you get demoted without cogent reason(s), that may be a cue you'd soon be shown the exit door.

6. As much as you can, keep your private life away from COLLEAGUES. You might be under INVESTIGATION for achieving some personal great feat without you even knowing.

7. Somebody your colleagues may not even like you, it could be the way you LOOK, DRESS, SPEAK, your capabilities, accomplishments at work, your aura or for some weird reasons and that is fine. Everybody cannot like you, so accept that.

8. Pay attention to body language, tone, pitch and pace of voice from your team members, colleagues or your boss. They may provide important cues to what isn't expressly said. Studies have shown that emotions,likes and dislikes are communicated via 38% para- verbal and 55% non verbal. Only 7% are communicated via verbal communication.

9. There will always be that " exceptional colleague" who gets the job done, gets the recognition and praises. Don't let that feeling of DISDAIN or inadequacy set in. See what that person is doing differently, how they do it and learn. You'll become a better person. Be open to LEARNING.

10. While the workplace should foster POSITIVE VALUABLE RELATIONSHIPS, your primary aim is to get the job done and go home. Don't forget that.

18 COSTLY MISTAKES THAT HUSBANDS MAKE

1. WORKING SO HARD AT YOUR JOB/BUSINESS BUT NOT IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Men, your company, your career, and your business are growing and flourishing because you lead them; your marriage will grow and flourish when you lead it and dedicate time to it.

2. THINKING THAT FLIRTING WITH OTHER WOMEN IS NOT CHEATING

You may not physically sleep with other women, but emotionally cheating is also unfaithfulness. Receiving nude images and having phone intimacy with other women is also cheating. Talking suggestively and attracting temptations is also cheating. If you are a flirt, flirt with your wife. If you claim your wife is too rigid, treat her well, and she will respond to your kinky ways. She also wants intimate pleasure and to feel wanted.

3. BEING GENEROUS OUTSIDE AND STINGY AT HOME

Don't be the husband who quickly says yes when other people ask for help, for your time and your money, but stingy to your wife and child/children. Your family comes first. Don't go to harambees contributing large sums, helping out people because you want to have a good public image yet to your family you deprive and deny.

4. THINKING THAT SHOWING LOVE IS AN UNMANLY THING

When you were dating and courting, you were romantic and thoughtful; but now that you are married, you wrongly think showing love is beneath you. If you truly love your wife, tell her, she needs to hear it. Warm her heart. Romance her. Date your wife. Her being a wife doesn't mean she doesn't need to feel loved. Real men show their love. God is a loving God. If God doesn't find showing love as something beneath Him, who are you to shun showing affection yet you are created in the image of God?

5. THROWING MONEY AND GIFTS AT PROBLEMS

When your wife and kids get concerned about you spending much time away from home, when you are told you are not doing what you are supposed to; change, improve. Don't throw money and gifts at them to silence them. They want your time and presence, not lifeless things.

6. ADMIRING OTHER WOMEN MORE THAN YOUR WIFE

If you find other women better looking than your wife, work on your wife. Nourish her with compliments, buy her clothes you think she'd look good in, take her shopping, pamper her, love her up till she glows. Go to the gym with her. Jog with her.

7. WASTING YOUR FAMILY MONEY ON MEANINGLESS THINGS

Stop wasting your family money on alcohol, drugs, prostitutes, strippers, and addictions. Invest that money in your family, the future of your child/children. Even if you are a super wealthy man, you can find other ways to have fun that contributes positively to your family life. You can channel your money into more honorable things like supporting your parents, your siblings, the less fortunate, and the needs of society. You don't have to be unfaithful and reckless just because you have lots of money.

8. JUSTIFYING PORNOGRAPHY

Pornography is lusting after other women on videos and images. This is actually cheating because you are desiring other women, not your wife. This also lays the ground for future acts of unfaithfulness. Because you see no harm in desiring strange women on videos and pictures, soon you will see no harm in desiring women in the streets, at work, in your neighborhood; then you might actually sleep with another woman.

9. THINKING THAT BEING THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY MEANS BEING A DICTATOR

This is what makes some husbands beat up their wives, abuse them, sit on them, and hinder their progress. Your wife is not your junior but your partner, she is one with you. Hurting her is hurting you. She is not your competitor, celebrate her progress. Being head doesn't mean your word is law or that you treat your wife as a slave. In fact, because you are the head you should serve more, give more and humble yourself to make sure your wife and child/children are doing well.

10. IGNORING YOUR WIFE'S ADVICE

Don't hide things from your wife. Engage her in making family decisions, you are stronger when you move as a team. Your wife has sharp instincts and she will help you navigate through life's issues.

11. BEING TOO PROUD TO SAY SORRY OR TO LISTEN

You are capable of doing wrong, and when you do wrong, admit it. Problems don't get solved when you deny them. You are not perfect. Learn to say sorry to your wife and child/children. By refusing to say sorry, you are showing your wife you are insensitive and that will hurt her and damage the mood at home. Sometimes all a woman needs is for you to say, "I am sorry." Be open to learning and being corrected. Far too many men are ruining their homes because of pride.

12. ABANDONING YOUR SPIRITUAL ROLE

You are to lead your family, even spiritually. Don't neglect this role and leave it for your wife alone. Your wife needs your prayers, she needs you to walk with her in God. Your child/children need to see you living for God, praying, and teaching them about God. You say you want a Godly household, well, be an actively Godly husband and father.

13. TAKING YOUR JOB TITLE HOME

Whether you are a C.E.O, Manager, Director, or an award-winning professional, once you get home or are with your wife and family, put away your title. Play your role as husband and father. Don't treat your wife and children like subordinates, lording over them. The home is a place of love, not a place for orders, restrictions, pressure, and intimidation.

14. HIDING YOUR FAILURES

In case things don't go well, you get fired, you get retrenched, or you make a bad decision; share it with your wife, don't hide it trying to project a fake image of 'everything is alright'. Your wife is there for you, she will walk with you. Share with her your weaknesses and failures. Love will always win.

15. WORRYING MORE ABOUT WHAT YOUR MALE FRIENDS OR PARENTS THINK THAN PLEASING YOUR FAMILY

Don't let your friends or parents run your marriage. Don't let your friends negatively influence you by mocking you that you are being sat on by your wife or wrongly advise you to be tough on your wife just to prove you are man enough. A true friend is a friend to your marriage. Your parents might mean well but might drive a wedge between you and your wife. You left your father and mother to be one with your wife. Defend your home.

16. BEING INTIMATELY SELFISH

Your wife has intimate needs too. Don't just seek your own gratification and then sleep or leave her unsatisfied. Fulfill her physically. Kiss her, touch her, embrace her, massage her, stimulate her, explore her body, evoke her passion, make her tremble, give her every sensual pleasure. She is devoted to you, and no other can fulfill this role like you can. Make sure she's fulfilled, and she'll reciprocate. Your responsibility is to arouse her and satisfy her intimately. A passionately engaged wife is a content wife and fosters a harmonious home. Make love to her.

17. LETTING HER BE THE PARENT ALONE

When she gets pregnant, don't abandon her. Walk with her as she carries your child. After birth, be proactive in teaching, mentoring, and guiding your child/children. Stop the nonsense of when the child does wrong, the child is your wife's; when the child does well, you are a proud father.

18. FAILING TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN FOR YOUR SUCCESSION

When you start a business, involve your child/children. Let your wife know of your properties, assets, and ventures. Prepare your children's future. Write a will. Share information, don't keep things in the dark. Too much unnecessary confusion plagues families because of lack of preparation in your marriage.

S 📝 

𝗦𝗶𝘅 𝗠𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝗠𝗲𝗻 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱

𝗦𝗶𝘅 𝗠𝗮𝗹𝗲 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗻 𝗠𝗲𝗻 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱 (2 were added as for the info)

(What Each Type Brings to the Table) 

Open Thread - 🧵 

🔸1. Alpha Males 

Alpha males are assertive and dominant. They often take charge in social settings, have high social status, and are charismatic leaders. They're the center of attention, like a CEO who can effortlessly command a room.

🔸2. Beta Males 

Beta males are less dominant and more agreeable and cooperative. They play a passive role in social hierarchies and crave forming relationships. A supportive colleague who willingly takes on a secondary role is a typical beta male.

🔸3. Delta Males 

Delta males often go unnoticed in social settings. They are neither dominant nor submissive and are fairly average in social interactions. Their adaptability makes them reliable, but they rarely lead.

🔸4. Gamma Males 

Gamma males are contrarians, often rejecting or challenging social norms. Their independent thinking sometimes makes them outsiders. A rebellious artist who struggles socially but is intelligent in other ways encapsulates this type.

🔸5. Omega Males 

Omega males are at the bottom of the social hierarchy and often lack social skills. They are typically introverted and may not lack self-confidence but are generally unpopular.

🔸6. Sigma Males 

Sigma males reject traditional social hierarchies and value their independence and self-reliance. They share charismatic traits with Alphas but operate outside conventional norms. A lone wolf who doesn't seek validation from others embodies this archetype.

🔸7. Epsilon Males

Epsilon males are Powerslide shoes designed to fit men's feet well. They have a PS insole with ventilation and a thinner toe area to give more space for the toes. They are also made of EVA foam and have a non-slip toe. 

🔸8. Zeta males

Zeta males are confident, independent, and defy gender norms. This male personality type is rare and unique. Zeta males reject common expectations and stereotypes of what it means to be a man and instead dance to the beat of their own drum. They aren't easily swayed by peer pressure.

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Addendum —

✋🏼Don't take these personality types too seriously. Much like horoscopes or MBTI, they're an idea people came up with to create broad categories of people. They don't have a scientific basis. Don't idolize or devalue certain personalities. There are alphas who destroy their own lives due to their egos, rudeness, and excessive risk-taking. And don't overlook the well-adjusted omegas who succeed at work, enjoy loving and healthy romantic relationships, and lead fulfilling lives.

Some far-right online spaces push the idea of a rigid social hierarchy and use it to promote victimizing, misogynistic views. Don't fall down any toxic rabbit holes. Focus on the type of life that feels right for you.

Try to be your best self instead of turning into someone you're not. For example, instead of trying to transform into an alpha when it's not your style, play to your strengths while brushing up on your weaknesses. Try to become a better version of the man you already are.

🧾Set specific goals if you're working on self-improvement. "Be more sigma" is vague. "I'm going to fight negative self-talk" or "I'm going to improve my listening skills" give you direction.

Sometimes, people focus too much on whether a man is dominant. But traits like listening, humility, helpfulness, and emotional intelligence are important for your success in work, romance, and more

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